The Point of it All
Some of you, if you pay any attention to my flickr page may know that I am reading this book called "Better single than sorry." If you are a single women I recommend it. It's pretty good. Make a lot of sense if you will. Not to say that the books author is saying anything that we have never heard before but in reading it myself I noticed a lot of aha! moments.
Anywhoz....Over the last couple of days I have made a small change in things. No need to get into what that change was. I'm sure folks will figure it out really soon but I just know for myself that maybe it needed to be done. Might not have gotten the outcome that I wanted but it was The Point of it all that needed to be realized. Sometimes if you don't ask, well, all the time if you don't ask questions then when things go sour you have no one to blame but yourself, and if you can't ask someone a question about where things are or where they are goin or how's the weather without it bein a problem then u need to re-evaluate some things. I'm not sayin that fits totally into my situation but you hopefully get the point. (In a round about way I hope) I never thought about this before but in different relationships that I've had, when they went sour and we either just stopped talkin and went our seperate ways without any real closure, I didnt pay it much attention. My thing was just good riddance, ya know? but I see now that that is important. You need to get those final things off your chest. Its important in order to move on and I'm sure it will help in the future. Not every one u meet is for you I guess.
Some folks u meet that u think could be that special person...might just be better suited as just a pal. Who knows? but in any event I think, and I could be wrong that there is nothin wrong with meeting someone and then just sitting down with that person if you are both interested in each other and seeing where each others head is at. There is nothing wrong with wanting to know what path that other person is on. I know some may disagree and say you dont need to know that right off but I say I DO!. I want to know if a person is lookin for only a friend, are you looking for a *uck friend? are you looking for your future life partner? all of that is important to know right off the freakin bat.
It doesn't mean that I am to assume that one of those will be my role but at least I know where your head is at. That way I can say...hmm I'm not lookin for any of that...so I know I need to just keep this person in this lil category and move on. Maybe its just me or somethin but it makes sense to me.
I know partially what I am lookin for. I'm not ready right at this moment to be married. I dont want to just sleep with this person or that person....but I would like to be a part of another persons life and actually KNOW this. Feel this and have the feeling returned back to me. I dont think thats too much to ask. Like the book says, loosely quoted mind u. I dont want to love someone like they like me.
Anywhoz....Over the last couple of days I have made a small change in things. No need to get into what that change was. I'm sure folks will figure it out really soon but I just know for myself that maybe it needed to be done. Might not have gotten the outcome that I wanted but it was The Point of it all that needed to be realized. Sometimes if you don't ask, well, all the time if you don't ask questions then when things go sour you have no one to blame but yourself, and if you can't ask someone a question about where things are or where they are goin or how's the weather without it bein a problem then u need to re-evaluate some things. I'm not sayin that fits totally into my situation but you hopefully get the point. (In a round about way I hope) I never thought about this before but in different relationships that I've had, when they went sour and we either just stopped talkin and went our seperate ways without any real closure, I didnt pay it much attention. My thing was just good riddance, ya know? but I see now that that is important. You need to get those final things off your chest. Its important in order to move on and I'm sure it will help in the future. Not every one u meet is for you I guess.
Some folks u meet that u think could be that special person...might just be better suited as just a pal. Who knows? but in any event I think, and I could be wrong that there is nothin wrong with meeting someone and then just sitting down with that person if you are both interested in each other and seeing where each others head is at. There is nothing wrong with wanting to know what path that other person is on. I know some may disagree and say you dont need to know that right off but I say I DO!. I want to know if a person is lookin for only a friend, are you looking for a *uck friend? are you looking for your future life partner? all of that is important to know right off the freakin bat.
It doesn't mean that I am to assume that one of those will be my role but at least I know where your head is at. That way I can say...hmm I'm not lookin for any of that...so I know I need to just keep this person in this lil category and move on. Maybe its just me or somethin but it makes sense to me.
I know partially what I am lookin for. I'm not ready right at this moment to be married. I dont want to just sleep with this person or that person....but I would like to be a part of another persons life and actually KNOW this. Feel this and have the feeling returned back to me. I dont think thats too much to ask. Like the book says, loosely quoted mind u. I dont want to love someone like they like me.
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Didn't know there was a book out there that explained the way I felt! LOL I've been saying this to my friends forever but they don't get it because they are all married!
Hey Ms J...The name of the book is better single than sorry by Jen Schefft. You should check it out...if you want I can mail u my copy if u mail it back when u done...lol
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